You should keep two principles ready. First: nothing is good or bad except your will. Second: don't try to control events — follow them instead. "My brother shouldn't have treated me this way." No, but that's his problem to deal with. However he acts, I'll behave toward him the way I should. That's my business. His behavior is his business. No one can stop me from doing what's right. But they can interfere with everything else.
For we ought to have these two principles in readiness, that except the will nothing is good nor bad; and that we ought not to lead events, but to follow them. My brother ought not to have behaved thus to me. No, but he will see to that; and, however he may behave, I will conduct myself towards him as I ought. For this is my own business; that belongs to another: no man can prevent this, the other thing can be hindered.