Plain
Epictetus — The Slave

What will you do when someone talks about gladiators, horses, or athletes? Or worse — when they gossip about people? 'This person is terrible, that person is great. This was done well, that was done badly.' What if they mock others, make jokes, or act nasty? Are you prepared like a musician who picks up a lute? The musician touches the strings and immediately knows which ones are out of tune. Then he tunes the instrument. Do you have the skill that Socrates had? In every conversation, he could guide people toward his way of thinking. How could you possibly have that power? The inevitable result is that ordinary people will influence you instead.

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Human Nature Knowing Yourself
Epictetus — The Slave Original

For what will you do if a man speaks about gladiators, about horses, about athletes, or what is worse about men? Such a person is bad, such a person is good; this was well done, this was done badly. Further, if he scoff, or ridicule, or show an ill-natured disposition? Is any man among us prepared like a lute-player when he takes a lute, so that as soon as he has touched the strings, he discovers which are discordant, and tunes the instrument? Such a power as Socrates had who in all his social intercourse could lead his companions to his own purpose? How should you have this power? It is therefore a necessary consequence that you are carried about by the common kind of people.

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Epictetus — The Slave

If you spend a lot of time with people — talking, drinking, or just hanging out — one of two things will happen. Either you'll become like them, or they'll become like you. Think of it like charcoal. Put a dead piece next to a burning piece. Either the dead one kills the fire, or the burning one lights up the dead one. The risk is huge. So be careful about getting close to ordinary people. Remember: you can't hang around someone covered in soot without getting dirty yourself.

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Human Nature Knowing Yourself
Epictetus — The Slave Original

If a man has frequent intercourse with others either for talk, or drinking together, or generally for social purposes, he must either become like them, or change them to his own fashion. For if a man places a piece of quenched charcoal close to a piece that is burning, either the quenched charcoal will quench the other, or the burning charcoal will light that which is quenched. Since then the danger is so great, we must cautiously enter into such intimacies with those of the common sort, and remember that it is impossible that a man can keep company with one who is covered with soot without being partaker of the soot himself.

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