Are you ashamed of things that aren't your fault? Things you didn't cause? Things that just happened to you, like a headache or fever? If your parents were poor and left their money to other people, and if they don't help you while they're alive — are you ashamed of that? Is this what you learned from philosophers? Haven't you heard that only shameful acts deserve blame? And that only blameworthy things are worth blaming? Who do you blame for something they didn't do themselves? Did you make your father the way he is? Can you change him? Do you have that power? Then why wish for things you can't have? Why be ashamed when you don't get them?
Is that shameful to you which is not your own act, that of which you are not the cause, that which has come to you by accident, as a headache, as a fever? If your parents were poor, and left their property to others, and if while they live, they do not help you at all, is this shameful to you? Is this what you learned with the philosophers? Did you never hear that the thing which is shameful ought to be blamed, and that which is blamable is worthy of blame? Whom do you blame for an act which is not his own, which he did not do himself? Did you then make your father such as he is, or is it in your power to improve him? Is this power given to you? Well then, ought you to wish the things which are not given to you, or to be ashamed if you do not obtain them?