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Marcus Aurelius — The Emperor

Remember these nine rules like gifts from the gods. Start living by them today, while you're still alive, and be a real man. But be careful not to flatter people as much as you avoid getting angry with them. Both are wrong and both cause harm. When your emotions rise up, remember this right away: anger is not manly. Being calm and gentle is more human, and more truly masculine. That's where real strength comes from. Anger and outrage have no power at all.

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Calm Your Mind Knowing Yourself
Marcus Aurelius — The Emperor Original

These nine particular heads, as so many gifts from the Muses, see that thou remember well: and begin one day, whilest thou art yet alive, to be a man indeed. But on the other side thou must take heed, as much to flatter them, as to be angry with them: for both are equally uncharitable, and equally hurtful. And in thy passions, take it presently to thy consideration, that to be angry is not the part of a man, but that to be meek and gentle, as it savours of more humanity, so of more manhood. That in this, there is strength and nerves, or vigour and fortitude: whereof anger and indignation is altogether void.

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Marcus Aurelius — The Emperor

For example, you might say: 'My son, we were not born to hurt each other. This will harm you, not me.' Show him clearly that this is true. Bees don't attack their own kind, and neither do other creatures that live together naturally. But you must do this gently, without mocking or lecturing. Speak with kindness, not harsh words. Don't do it to show off or impress the people watching. Do it so that only he can hear, even if others are around.

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Human Nature Doing The Right Thing
Marcus Aurelius — The Emperor Original

As for example; My son, we were not born for this, to hurt and annoy one another; it will be thy hurt not mine, my son: and so to show him forcibly and fully, that it is so in very deed: and that neither bees do it one to another, nor any other creatures that are naturally sociable. But this thou must do, not scoffingly, not by way of exprobation, but tenderly without any harshness of words. Neither must thou do it by way of exercise, or ostentation, that they that are by and hear thee, may admire thee: but so always that nobody be privy to it, but himself alone: yea, though there be more present at the same time.

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