Sometimes we see the offense happen right in front of us. When this happens, we should look at who did it and why they did it. Maybe it's a child — let's forgive their youth, since they don't know they're doing something wrong. Or maybe it's a father who has done so much good for us that he's earned the right to wrong us sometimes. Or maybe this thing that bothers us is actually his greatest strength. Or it's a woman who simply made a mistake. Or the person was just following orders. Only an unfair person gets angry at someone who was forced to act. Maybe you hurt him first — well, there's nothing wrong with getting back the pain you started.
Some offences we ourselves witness: in these cases let us examine the disposition and purpose of the offender. Perhaps he is a child; let us pardon his youth, he knows not whether he is doing wrong: or he is a father; he has either rendered such great services, as to have won the right even to wrong us—or perhaps this very act which offends us is his chief merit: or a woman; well, she made a mistake. The man did it because he was ordered to do it. Who but an unjust person can be angry with what is done under compulsion? You had hurt him: well, there is no wrong in suffering the pain which you have been the first to inflict.