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Seneca — The Senator

How much more do we need to do this? Let's ask our best friends to give us their honest opinion, especially when we least want to hear it. They should never just go along with us when we're angry. While we're thinking clearly and have control of ourselves, let's ask for help against such a powerful enemy — one that we wrongly think is our friend. People who can't handle their wine well, and worry they might do something rash or rude, tell their servants to take them away from dinner parties when they're drunk. Those who know from experience how unreasonable they become when sick give orders that no one should obey them when they're ill.

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Calm Your Mind Knowing Yourself
Seneca — The Senator Original

How much more needful is it for us to do this? let us beg all our best friends to give us their opinion with the greatest freedom at the very time when we can bear it least, and never to be compliant with us when we are angry. While we are in our right senses, while we are under our own control, let us call for help against so powerful an evil, and one which we regard with such unjust favour. Those who cannot carry their wine discreetly, and fear to be betrayed into some rash and insolent act, give their slaves orders to take them away from the banquet when they are drunk; those who know by experience how unreasonable they are when sick give orders that no one is to obey them when they are in ill health.

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Seneca — The Senator

Our inner thoughts slowly start to match how we act on the outside. When Socrates got angry, he would lower his voice and speak very little. This showed he was trying to control himself. His friends learned to spot this behavior and would call him out for being angry. He didn't mind being accused of hiding his anger. How could he not be pleased that many people could see his anger, but none actually suffered from it? They would have suffered, though, if he hadn't given his friends the same right to criticize him that he used with them.

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Calm Your Mind Human Nature
Seneca — The Senator Original

Our inward thoughts gradually become influenced by our outward demeanour. With Socrates it was a sign of anger when he lowered his voice, and became sparing of speech; it was evident at such times that he was exercising restraint over himself. His friends, consequently, used to detect him acting thus, and convict him of being angry; nor was he displeased at being charged with concealment of anger; indeed, how could he help being glad that many men should perceive his anger, yet that none should feel it? they would however, have felt it had not he granted to his friends the same right of criticizing his own conduct which he himself assumed over theirs.

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