Plain
Epictetus — The Slave

But where does this actually work? We also believe we can safely trust someone who has already told us their secrets. We think: this person would never betray our secrets because they'd be afraid we might betray theirs. This is how careless people get trapped by soldiers in Rome. A soldier sits next to you in regular clothes and starts badmouthing Caesar. You think his criticism proves he's trustworthy. So you also say what you really think. Then you get dragged away in chains.

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Human Nature Knowing Yourself
Epictetus — The Slave Original

where is this done? Besides, we have also this opinion that we can safely trust him who has already told us his own affairs; for the notion rises in our mind that this man could never divulge our affairs because he would be cautious that we also should not divulge his. In this way also the incautious are caught by the soldiers at Rome. A soldier sits by you in a common dress and begins to speak ill of Cæsar; then you, as if you had received a pledge of his fidelity by his having begun the abuse, utter yourself also what you think, and then you are carried off in chains.

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Epictetus — The Slave

When someone opens up and talks honestly about their personal matters, why do we feel compelled to share our secrets with them too? Why do we think this is the honest thing to do? First, it feels unfair to listen to someone's private business without sharing our own in return. Second, we worry that staying quiet about our own affairs will make us look dishonest or closed off. You hear people say this all the time: "I told you everything about myself — won't you tell me anything about you?"

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Human Nature Knowing Yourself
Epictetus — The Slave Original

When a man has seemed to us to have talked with simplicity (candor) about his own affairs, how is it that at last we are ourselves also induced to discover to him our own secrets and we think this to be candid behavior? In the first place, because it seems unfair for a man to have listened to the affairs of his neighbor, and not to communicate to him also in turn our own affairs; next, because we think that we shall not present to them the appearance of candid men when we are silent about our own affairs. Indeed, men are often accustomed to say, I have told you all my affairs, will you tell me nothing of your own?

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