Plain
Epictetus — The Slave

Someone arrives from Rome. You think, "I hope nothing bad happened." But what harm could happen to you when you're not even there? Someone comes from Greece. "I hope there's no bad news." This way, every place on earth becomes a source of worry for you. Isn't it enough to deal with problems where you actually are? Do you need to suffer over distant places too, all because of what some letter might say? Is this what you call living securely? Now suppose your friends have died in faraway places. What happened to them except the normal human condition? How can you want to live to old age and also never see anyone you love die?

Discourses, That We Ought not to Be Moved by a Desire of Those Things Which Are not in Our Power 283 of 388
Calm Your Mind Facing Hardship Death & Mortality
Epictetus — The Slave Original

Some person has arrived from Rome. I only hope there is no harm. But what harm can happen to you, where you are not? From Hellas (Greece) some one is come; I hope that there is no harm. In this way every place may be the cause of misfortune to you. Is it not enough for you to be unfortunate there where you are, and must you be so even beyond sea, and by the report of letters? Is this the way in which your affairs are in a state of security? Well then suppose that my friends have died in the places which are far from me. What else have they suffered than that which is the condition of mortals? Or how are you desirous at the same time to live to old age, and at the same time not to see the death of any person whom you love?

Discourses, That We Ought not to Be Moved by a Desire of Those Things Which Are not in Our Power 283 of 388
Epictetus — The Slave

But my mother cries when she doesn't see me. Why hasn't she learned these principles? I'm not saying we shouldn't try to prevent her from crying. I'm saying we shouldn't desperately want things that aren't ours to control. Someone else's pain belongs to them. My pain belongs to me. I'll stop my own suffering by any means I can — because that's within my power. I'll try to help with another person's suffering as much as I'm able. But I won't try to control it completely. If I do that, I'll be fighting against God. I'll be opposing Zeus and setting myself against how he runs the universe. The punishment for fighting God and disobeying this order won't just fall on my children's children. I'll pay for it myself, both day and night — startled by dreams, disturbed, shaking at every bit of news, with my peace of mind hanging on other people's letters.

Discourses, That We Ought not to Be Moved by a Desire of Those Things Which Are not in Our Power 282 of 388
Freedom & Control Calm Your Mind
Epictetus — The Slave Original

But my mother laments when she does not see me. Why has she not learned these principles? and I do not say this, that we should not take care that she may not lament, but I say that we ought not to desire in every way what is not our own. And the sorrow of another is another's sorrow; but my sorrow is my own. I then will stop my own sorrow by every means, for it is in my power; and the sorrow of another I will endeavor to stop as far as I can; but I will not attempt to do it by every means; for if I do, I shall be fighting against God, I shall be opposing Zeus and shall be placing myself against him in the administration of the universe; and the reward (the punishment) of this fighting against God and of this disobedience not only will the children of my children pay, but I also shall myself, both by day and by night, startled by dreams, perturbed, trembling at every piece of news, and having my tranquillity depending on the letters of others.

Discourses, That We Ought not to Be Moved by a Desire of Those Things Which Are not in Our Power 282 of 388
‹ Previous Next ›

Ancient philosophy, in plain English.

About · Support