What's the reason for this problem? The reason is that we never read or write for the right purpose. We don't study so we can handle life's situations naturally and wisely. Instead, we stop at just learning what the texts say. We focus on explaining ideas to others, solving logical puzzles, and working through complex arguments. That's why we get stuck where we put our effort. Do you insist on wanting things that aren't up to you? Then expect to be blocked, frustrated, and disappointed.
What then is the reason of this? The reason is that we have never read for this purpose, we have never written for this purpose, so that we may in our actions use in a way conformable to nature the appearances presented to us; but we terminate in this, in learning what is said, and in being able to expound it to another, in resolving a syllogism, and in handling the hypothetical syllogism. For this reason where our study (purpose) is, there alone is the impediment. Would you have by all means the things which are not in your power? Be prevented then, be hindered, fail in your purpose.