When the man who was consulting Epictetus said, 'I want to know this: How can I stay calm and natural, even if my brother won't make up with me?' Epictetus replied: 'Nothing great happens overnight. Not even a grape or fig grows that fast. If you told me right now that you wanted a fig, I'd say it takes time. First it has to bloom, then grow the fruit, then ripen. If a fig tree can't produce perfect fruit suddenly in one hour, do you really think you can get the fruit of a person's mind that quickly and easily? Don't expect it, even if I promise you can.'
When the man who was consulting him said, I seek to know this, How, even if my brother is not reconciled to me, shall I maintain myself in a state conformable to nature? Nothing great, said Epictetus, is produced suddenly, since not even the grape or the fig is. If you say to me now that you want a fig, I will answer to you that it requires time: let it flower first, then put forth fruit, and then ripen. Is then the fruit of a fig-tree not perfected suddenly and in one hour, and would you possess the fruit of a man's mind in so short a time and so easily? Do not expect it, even if I tell you.