What should you say or do right now that makes the most sense? Whatever it is, you have the power to do it or say it. So stop making excuses like something is holding you back. You will keep groaning and complaining until doing the right thing becomes as natural to you as pleasure is to someone who chases pleasures. You need to find joy in doing whatever fits your nature as a human being. And you can do this anywhere.
What then is it that may upon this present occasion according to best reason and discretion, either be said or done? For whatsoever it be, it is in thy power either to do it, or to say it, and therefore seek not any pretences, as though thou wert hindered. Thou wilt never cease groaning and complaining, until such time as that, what pleasure is unto the voluptuous, be unto thee, to do in everything that presents itself, whatsoever may be done conformably and agreeably to the proper constitution of man, or, to man as he is a man. For thou must account that pleasure, whatsoever it be, that thou mayest do according to thine own nature. And to do this, every place will fit thee.