Plain
Seneca — The Senator

Is this his first mistake? Think about how long he's been good to you. Has he messed up often before? Then keep putting up with what you've already put up with for so long. Is he a friend? Then he didn't mean to hurt you. Is he an enemy? Then he was just doing what enemies do. If he's smart, let's believe his excuses. If he's a fool, let's forgive him. Whatever kind of person he is, let's remember this: even the wisest people make mistakes all the time. No one is so careful that they never slip up. No one has such good judgment that they can't be pushed into doing something stupid. In the end, no one — no matter how hard they try not to offend — can avoid hurting others sometimes.

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Human Nature Facing Hardship
Seneca — The Senator Original

Is this his first offence? think how long he has been acceptable. Has he often done wrong, and in many other cases? then let us continue to bear what we have borne so long. Is he a friend? then he did not intend to do it. Is he an enemy? then in doing it he did his duty. If he be a sensible man, let us believe his excuses; if a fool, let us grant him pardon; whatever he may be, let us say to ourselves on his behalf, that even the wisest of men are often in fault, that no one is so alert that his carefulness never betrays itself, that no one is of so ripe a judgment that his serious mind cannot be goaded by circumstances into some hotheaded action, that, in fine, no one, however much he may fear to give offence, can help doing so even while he tries to avoid it.

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Seneca — The Senator

So whenever someone provokes you, ask yourself this: "Am I more powerful than Philip? Yet he let a man curse him without punishment. Do I have more authority in my own house than Emperor Augustus had over the whole world? Yet he was content to simply avoid the company of someone who spoke badly of him. Why should I make my slave pay with beatings and chains just because he answered me too loudly, gave me a stubborn look, or muttered something I couldn't hear? Who am I to think that offending my ears should be a crime? Many people have forgiven their enemies — can't I forgive people for being lazy, careless, and gossipy?" We should make excuses for others: children are young, women are different, strangers don't know our ways, and house servants are too familiar with us.

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Facing Hardship Human Nature
Seneca — The Senator Original

Let every one, then, say to himself, whenever he is provoked, “Am I more powerful than Philip? yet he allowed a man to curse him with impunity. Have I more authority in my own house than the Emperor Augustus possessed throughout the world? yet he was satisfied with leaving the society of his maligner. Why should I make my slave atone by stripes and manacles for having answered me too loudly or having put on a stubborn look, or muttered something which I did not catch? Who am I, that it should be a crime to shock my ears? Many men have forgiven their enemies: shall I not forgive men for being lazy, careless, and gossipping?” We ought to plead age as an excuse for children, sex for women, freedom for a stranger, familiarity for a house-servant.

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