Plain
Seneca — The Senator

When a poor man is in trouble, it helps him to know that even the rich and powerful face disasters. A man cries more peacefully over his dead son in his little shack when he sees a sad funeral coming from the palace too. The same goes for insults and injuries — you handle them better when you remember that no one is so powerful they can't be hurt. If even the wisest people make mistakes, who can't find a good excuse for their own faults? Think back to when you were young. How often were you lazy with your duties? How often did you speak rudely or drink too much? When someone is angry with you, give them time to think about what they've done. They'll correct themselves. But even if they deserve to be punished for their actions, that's no reason for us to act the same way they do.

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Human Nature Facing Hardship
Seneca — The Senator Original

As it is a consolation to a humble man in trouble that the greatest are subject to reverses of fortune, and a man weeps more calmly over his dead son in the corner of his hovel if he sees a piteous[10] funeral proceed out of the palace as well; so one bears injury or insult more calmly if one remembers that no power is so great as to be above the reach of harm. Indeed, if even the wisest do wrong, who cannot plead a good excuse for his faults? Let us look back upon our own youth, and think how often we then were too slothful in our duty, too impudent in our speech, too intemperate in our cups. Is anyone angry? then let us give him enough time to reflect upon what he has done, and he will correct his own self. But suppose he ought to pay the penalty of his deeds: well, that is no reason why we should act as he does.

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Seneca — The Senator

Is this his first mistake? Think about how long he's been good to you. Has he messed up often before? Then keep putting up with what you've already put up with for so long. Is he a friend? Then he didn't mean to hurt you. Is he an enemy? Then he was just doing what enemies do. If he's smart, let's believe his excuses. If he's a fool, let's forgive him. Whatever kind of person he is, let's remember this: even the wisest people make mistakes all the time. No one is so careful that they never slip up. No one has such good judgment that they can't be pushed into doing something stupid. In the end, no one — no matter how hard they try not to offend — can avoid hurting others sometimes.

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Human Nature Facing Hardship
Seneca — The Senator Original

Is this his first offence? think how long he has been acceptable. Has he often done wrong, and in many other cases? then let us continue to bear what we have borne so long. Is he a friend? then he did not intend to do it. Is he an enemy? then in doing it he did his duty. If he be a sensible man, let us believe his excuses; if a fool, let us grant him pardon; whatever he may be, let us say to ourselves on his behalf, that even the wisest of men are often in fault, that no one is so alert that his carefulness never betrays itself, that no one is of so ripe a judgment that his serious mind cannot be goaded by circumstances into some hotheaded action, that, in fine, no one, however much he may fear to give offence, can help doing so even while he tries to avoid it.

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