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Epictetus — The Slave

Strong habits control us. We're used to wanting and avoiding things that aren't up to us. We need to fight this habit with a different habit. When something looks really tempting, that's when you need to practice the most. Later, when you're ready, you can test yourself at the right moment. You'll enter the arena to see if appearances still overpower you like they used to. But first, stay far away from anything stronger than you are. It's not a fair fight between a beautiful young woman and a beginning philosopher. As the saying goes, the clay pot and the rock don't get along.

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Knowing Yourself Freedom & Control
Epictetus — The Slave Original

And since strong habit leads (prevails), and we are accustomed to employ desire and aversion only to things which are not within the power of our will, we ought to oppose to this habit a contrary habit, and where there is great slipperiness in the appearances, there to oppose the habit of exercise. Then at last, if occasion presents itself, for the purpose of trying yourself at a proper time you will descend into the arena to know if appearances overpower you as they did formerly. But at first fly far from that which is stronger than yourself; the contest is unequal between a charming young girl and a beginner in philosophy. The earthen pitcher, as the saying is, and the rock do not agree.

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Epictetus — The Slave

What are we actually trying to accomplish? We want to live with our desires and fears under control. What does that mean? It means not being disappointed when you want something, and not falling into what you're trying to avoid. That's what your practice should focus on. You can't achieve unshakeable desire and fear-free avoidance without serious, constant practice. Here's the key: if you let your desires and fears focus on things outside your control, you'll fail on both counts. Your desires won't be satisfied, and you won't avoid what you fear.

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Freedom & Control Knowing Yourself
Epictetus — The Slave Original

And what is that which is proposed to us as a thing to be worked out? To live with desire and aversion (avoidance of certain things) free from restraint. And what is this? Neither to be disappointed in that which you desire, nor to fall into anything which you would avoid. Towards this object then exercise (practice) ought to tend. For since it is not possible to have your desire not disappointed and your aversion free from falling into that which you would avoid, without great and constant practice, you must know that if you allow your desire and aversion to turn to things which are not within the power of the will, you will neither have your desire capable of attaining your object, nor your aversion free from the power of avoiding that which you would avoid.

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