Plain
Seneca — The Senator

Someone who didn't know Marcus Cato accidentally hit him at the public baths. Who would have done it on purpose? When the man tried to apologize, Cato said, "I don't remember being struck." He thought it was better to ignore the insult than to get revenge. You ask, "Didn't that man pay for being so rude?" No. In fact, something good came of it — he got to meet Cato. It takes a great mind to dismiss wrongs done against you. The most crushing form of revenge is deciding your enemy isn't even worth fighting. Many people take small injuries far more seriously than they should by seeking revenge. A truly great and noble person is like a large wild animal that pays no attention to the tiny dogs yapping at its heels.

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Facing Hardship Human Nature
Seneca — The Senator Original

Some one who did not know Marcus Cato struck him in the public bath in his ignorance, for who would knowingly have done him an injury? Afterwards when he was apologizing, Cato replied, "I do not remember being struck." He thought it better to ignore the insult than to revenge it. You ask, "Did no harm befall that man for his insolence?" No, but rather much good; he made the acquaintance of Cato. It is the part of a great mind to despise wrongs done to it; the most contemptuous form of revenge is not to deem one's adversary worth taking vengeance upon. Many have taken small injuries much more seriously to heart than they need, by revenging them: that man is great and noble who like a large wild animal hears unmoved the tiny curs that bark at him.

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Seneca — The Senator

"But anger has its own pleasure," you might say. "It feels good to pay back the pain you've suffered." Not at all. It's not honorable to answer injuries with injuries, the way it is honorable to repay kindness with kindness. When someone is kind to you, it's shameful to be outdone in generosity. But when someone hurts you, it's shameful to win at hurting back. Revenge and retaliation sound like righteous words. People use them and think they're justified. But they're barely different from plain wrongdoing. The only difference is the order — who started it. The person who gives back pain for pain has a better excuse for their sin. That's all.

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Facing Hardship Doing The Right Thing
Seneca — The Senator Original

"But anger possesses a certain pleasure of its own, and it is sweet to pay back the pain you have suffered." Not at all; it is not honourable to requite injuries by injuries, in the same way as it is to repay benefits by benefits. In the latter case it is a shame to be conquered; in the former it is a shame to conquer. Revenge and retaliation are words which men use and even think to be righteous, yet they do not greatly differ from wrong-doing, except in the order in which they are done: he who renders pain for pain has more excuse for his sin; that is all.

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