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Seneca — The Senator

If we know we have a quick temper, we might want to surround ourselves with friends who agree with everything we say. They will spoil us and train us to hear only what we want to hear. But it's actually better to give our anger a break and some peace. Even animals that are naturally mean and aggressive will respond to gentle treatment. No creature stays angry or scared if you pet it kindly. When an argument looks like it might drag on longer or get nastier than usual, we should stop it at the very beginning, before it gains momentum. Arguments feed on themselves as they continue. They grab hold of anyone who gets too deep into them. It's much easier to stay out of a fight than to escape once you're already in it.

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Facing Hardship Calm Your Mind
Seneca — The Senator Original

If, then, we are conscious of an irascible disposition, let us especially choose for our friends those who will look and speak as we do: they will pamper us and lead us into a bad habit of listening to nothing that does not please us, but it will be good to give our anger respite and repose. Even those who are naturally crabbed and wild will yield to caresses: no creature continues either angry or frightened if you pat him. Whenever a controversy seems likely to be longer or more keenly disputed than usual, let us check its first beginnings, before it gathers strength. A dispute nourishes itself as it proceeds, and takes hold of those who plunge too deeply into it: it is easier to stand aloof than to extricate oneself from a struggle.

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Seneca — The Senator

I had a friend who was a good man, but he got angry too easily. It was just as dangerous to praise him as it was to insult him. Everyone knew that Caelius the orator had the worst temper imaginable. They say he once had dinner in his room with a very patient client. Even in private, Caelius could barely avoid picking a fight. His guest thought it was best to agree with everything and stay quiet. But Caelius couldn't stand the man's constant agreement. He finally burst out: "Argue with me about something, so there can be two of us here!" Yet even he — a man who got angry at not being angry — soon calmed down because he had no one to fight with.

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Human Nature Calm Your Mind
Seneca — The Senator Original

One of my own friends was a good man indeed, but too prone to anger, and it was as dangerous to flatter him as to curse him. Caelius the orator, it is well known, was the worst-tempered man possible. It is said that once he was dining in his own chamber with an especially long-suffering client, but had great difficulty when thrown thus into a man's society to avoid quarrelling with him. The other thought it best to agree to whatever he said, and to play second fiddle, but Caelius could not bear his obsequious agreement, and exclaimed, "Do contradict me in something, that there may be two of us!" Yet even he, who was angry at not being angry, soon recovered his temper, because he had no one to fight with.

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