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Seneca — The Senator

"He has given me every honor the state offers, but he hasn't added anything to my personal wealth. What he gave me, he had to give to someone. He didn't reach into his own pocket for it." Stop talking like this. Thank him for what you received. Wait for more, and be grateful you still have room for more good things. There's real pleasure in having something left to hope for. Are you his top choice? Then celebrate holding first place in your friend's heart. Are many others chosen before you? Then remember how many more people rank below you than above you. Want to know your biggest problem? You keep terrible accounts. You put a high price on what you give and a low price on what you get.

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Human Nature Knowing Yourself
Seneca — The Senator Original

He has bestowed upon me every honour that the state affords: yes, but he has added nothing to my private fortune. What he gave me he was obliged to give to somebody: he brought out nothing from his own pocket.” Rather than speak thus, thank him for what you have received: wait for the rest, and be thankful that you are not yet too full to contain more: there is a pleasure in having something left to hope for. Are you preferred to every one? then rejoice at holding the first place in the thoughts of your friend. Or are many others preferred before you? then think how many more are below you than there are above you. Do you ask, what is your greatest fault? It is, that you keep your accounts wrongly: you set a high value upon what you give, and a low one upon what you receive.

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Seneca — The Senator

No one is happy with what they have if they keep looking at what others have. This makes us angry even at the gods when someone gets ahead of us. We forget how many people we're already ahead of. When someone envies just a few people, there's a huge crowd behind them who envies them. But human nature is so petty that no matter how much people receive, they feel cheated if they could have gotten more. "He gave me the praetorship. Yes, but I wanted the consulship. He gave me the twelve axes, but he didn't make me a regular consul. He let me give my name to the year, but he didn't help me get the priesthood. I was elected to the college, but why only one?"

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Human Nature What Matters Most
Seneca — The Senator Original

No man is satisfied with his own lot if he fixes his attention on that of another: and this leads to our being angry even with the gods, because somebody precedes us, though we forget of how many we take precedence, and that when a man envies few people, he must be followed in the background by a huge crowd of people who envy him. Yet so churlish is human nature, that, however much men may have received, they think themselves wronged if they are able to receive still more. “He gave me the praetorship. Yes, but I had hoped for the consulship. He bestowed the twelve axes upon me: true, but he did not make me a regular[12] consul. He allowed me to give my name to the year, but he did not help me to the priesthood. I have been elected a member of the college: but why only of one?

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